That’s right your heard it, we’re not engaged and we’re doing great! This blog post has been stewing in my mind for quite a while now so I thought, let’s just get it out there.
If you don’t know our backstory, Tj and I have been together for 4 years and 7 months. We met in Memphis, TN at one of our favorite bars/restaurants called Local one random night. I was out with a friend for a girls night, not expecting to meet anyone, and then it happened. We hit it off and have been together ever since.
TJ is the peanut butter to my jelly, the sprinkles on my sundae, the macaroni to my cheese….he is my best friend and the love of my life. Everything just feels right when we’re together and I can’t imagine doing life without him. A little over two and a half years ago we moved to Houston, TX together for his job. Now, I have heard it multiple times and you may be thinking it too, but no I did not expect a ring before we moved and no I did not expect to get one right after either. We are happy, we are in a good place, and no matter what “the norms” may say, we are not in a rush.
It feels like the common thing or the “norm” these days is to find the man of your dreams, date him for 2 years or less, and then tie the knot asap. While this may work for some, I’m more of the date for a few years, move in together, make sure you can stand each other after living together for a while and then start thinking about tying the knot.
If you’re reading this thinking, we moved way faster than this and we are married and doing fine, you go Glen Coco! I’m not here to shame anyone who is already there. I’m here to shed light one the couples who have been together for years, are in their late 20’s or even older, and still aren’t engaged or married. WE ARE FINE Y’ALL!
Tj and I are in a great place! We love each other, can’t wait for our future together, and are not in a rush. Of course I would love to marry him tomorrow and I’m so excited to marry him, but the added pressure from friends and family can be tough. This decision is going to be on our time and on our terms. I don’t believe in giving ultimatums or having a deadline of when it is supposed to happen. If it is meant to be, it will be and that is it.
So if you are a Mom, friend, sister, brother, or any sort of relation to a couple who you think “what is taking them so long?!”, please don’t add to the pressure, this is such a special time and a big moment. If it is meant to be it will happen and it will happen on their perfect time!